It’s my husband’s birthday and I can’t blame him for taking the day off.  I made him his favorite - carrot cake and cooked him an excellent dinner. It was a great day!  I love that man!  I’m posting this on his laptop and his “w” is broken and posting here is a pain!  I have to paste all “ w’s”  in.  So you won’t be seeing and capital “w”’s.  :-D 

My oldest - the daughter that is graduating from high school, in June decided she needs to move about 2.5 hours from our home to attend a junior college thirty miles away from there.  She has a big whooping $500 saved up and several thousand in a savings account, that’s not hers until she turns 18 in November.  At this point I’ve told her my college financial package is living at home with room and board which is worth approximately $700 bucks a month in my area.  She also has the option of living with my mother for free and attending a more “popular” college.  I know I should have planned this out better but I also know that no one helped me out with college.  I just want to add that she turns 18 in November 08, and I rarely regulate on her, unless she’s completely out of line.   

Does this make me a bad parent?  I sure don’t think so, although others may say different.  At this point, her expectations are beyond what I’m willing to do, while her friends parent’s are mortgaging their homes to pay for their children’s education - remember it’s not a guarantee, it’s gamble, a roll of the dice,  and I still have 3 more kids to follow I’m thinking my children’s education should be paid by them, not me, at this point we need too look out for my husband’s retirement.  Call me nuts, I really don’t care.  

My oldest has way too much “party” in her and the fact that she’s not willing to take her great grandma’s bedroom furniture - with her to her new apartment because she doesn’t trust herself or her friends, means I’m not willing to cosign, besides, realistically, it’s not like I even afford to cosign especially knowing that SHE can’t afford her rent and living expenses, let alone college.  

I’ve been accused of “ruining her life” and “not caring about her education”.  I’m so over that…  Sure it hurts but if she really cared that much, she would have earned the grades to go the college she wanted to attend and maybe would have saved some of the $8,700+ she earned last year.  Just a thought.

My oldest has known for a good year that I want to see a budget and see exactly what she can afford to pay for rent.  Despite this knowledge she flat out refuses to make a budget.  So what am I making of this???  I’m really not sure but I know I’m not willing to get caught up in the financial mess.   I do know that she is not wanting to attend our local JC that is only 15 minutes away from our house because, “no one goes to that JC”.  The horror of actually getting the classes you need and maybe graduating on time!

Okay, rant over, I hope everyone has a FABULOUS weekend!!!