My oldest took a two day orientation class at the JC she’ll be attending. Thanks to the class, she’ll be able to register for classes a full day before everyone else. She’s getting excited and scared at the same time. She’s decided that she’ll take 15 units this fall semester. She’s also decided that she’ll need to only work a part time job on the weekends and dedicate the entire week to her studies.
Okay…. This is exactly what I’ve been telling her to do for an entire year! I honestly can count how many times we’ve fought over this very subject. I want her to live at home, work part time (for gas money, car insurance, and incidentals - she has a scholarship to pay for school) while attending school full time. She’s always argued that she didn’t want to live with me and wanted to get her own place which would require her to work full time and go to school part time. Thank GOD she finally woke up and is putting her schooling first. I’m sure she’ll flip flop on this subject a dozen or so more times. I’ll be ready…
My husband is planning on taking a two week vacation very soon. He also laid it on me last night that he plans on quitting his job. He said the stress of working with idiots is going to kill him. He told me to make up my mind, do I want his paycheck for how ever long it lasts and a dead husband? That really wasn’t a cool thing to say to me but I’m glad he said it, now I understand where he stands. He has people calling him all the time to go to work for them, he’s know world wide in his field. Changes are he’ll go back to working overseas for the bigger pay which means we’ll be apart 30 days at a time. Or if he chooses to work in the states he’d be gone 2 weeks at a time. He’d be making WAY more money but for me it’s not worth him being gone all the freaking time. The first 10 years of our marriage I only saw him every other month, it’s amazing we managed to have the kids we have. I’m not happy at all. I want him to keep the job he has but obviously if he feels it’ll kill him then it’s time to move on.
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Chicky Finance 07.10.08 at 2:20 pm
Ok this is tough one. Let me ask you this why dont you travel with him?Does he work overseas in one location or multiple?
messy 07.10.08 at 2:30 pm
Chicky - We have 4 kids, 5 dogs, steer, pigs, chickens, guinea hens, llama, horse, miniature donkeys, dwarf goat, hamster, gold fish, and a house on 20 acres. Traveling with him at this point in our lives isn’t really an option.
We have traveled with him before to South East Asia but it gets expensive with all the kids and finding someone to feed & water the animals.
He would be assigned to one particular location for a given time. Right now I know there’s work in Southern CA, Colorado, Indonesia, Philippines, New Zealand and the Gulf of Mexico.
Sharon 07.10.08 at 3:59 pm
Wow. This is a tough one. I can understand his need to quit if he’s feeling that bad at work, but the alternative doesn’t seem very good either. My husband used to travel when my younger two were babies, and it was hard. I hated it. I can’t even imagine being gone a month at a time.
I hope he finds a solution where his new job can be local….
Jim ~ mydebtblog.com 07.11.08 at 8:32 am
I’m quite confused here. He’s quitting his job but you guys have a farm? I was under the impression that he was a farmer. It sounds like he wants to travel and leave you all behind for weeks at a time. I have a hard time when 24 hours go by and I haven’t seen my wife. He obviously needs to leave a job he hates, but find something local enough to be around for his family.
messy 07.11.08 at 10:52 am
Jim - Nope he’s not a farmer, he’s more of a “weekend cowboy”. We don’t really use our land, it’s mostly just pasture for the horse and llama. We raise our own pork and beef and have a vegetable garden, that’s about it.
My husband is in the drilling business.
Foxie 07.12.08 at 5:12 am
“I have a hard time when 24 hours go by and I haven’t seen my wife.”
Try going through a deployment.
I’m just really glad it’s only four months and not the year plus that some people have to go through. (Of course, a lot of couples our age don’t even last the four month ones…)
I haven’t seen my hubby in over a month. Hard to believe. It’d be really tough if he was around and then left again every month… =/ Especially after putting up with it for so long before!
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